Danielle Lemer

Many of us carry an idea of the person we think we should be or we wish we were. These versions of us can include someone who copes, doesn't disappoint people and generally gets things right. But where did that person come from? And did we actually choose them? From childhood onwards, we absorb messages about what is valued. Be good. Work hard! Don't make a fuss. Make people proud!. Be helpful. Don't be selfish!. Over time, these messages can become part of how we see ourselves. Then we add...